Psychology — Letters

How much do you really know about your loved ones? How much do they know about you? They don’t really know you, do they?

the first and the 15thTobi NifesiOctober 15, 2024Tobi NifesiGhostwriting, Psychology, Vulnerability, Writing, Therapy

I finally understand Don Draper

I finally understand why a man of such intellect, wits, and talent, can have so many flaws and, at times, behave selfishly.

the first and the 15thTobi NifesiSeptember 1, 2024Tobi NifesiMad Men, Trauma, Psychology, Fatherhood, Men, Relationships, Time

-30-

I turn 30 today. It seems like a milestone, but I don't have the slightest idea what difference this age makes other than the fact that I now have almost three decades' worth of moments, memories, and miracles to learn from.

the first and the 15thTobi NifesiMay 15, 2024Tobi NifesiTime, Psychology, Gratitude, Hope, Creativity

What in the world are men reading?

Women are more likely to read books regardless of the author’s gender but men are more likely to read books written by men. Yes, you read that right: men are reluctant to open and read books written by women. Why’s that? And what are they reading instead?

Do the right/hard thing

Most of us are taught to do the right thing. But we weren’t told that doing the right thing is often the hardest thing to do or that the hardest thing to do may be the right thing. Read that again.

the first and the 15thTobi NifesiMarch 1, 2024Decision Making, Psychology, Faith, Time

Skip the roses for this one

You can skip the roses for this one. A simple thank you note, a small gesture of kindness, or even just a heartfelt conversation can go a long way in strengthening relationships and fostering a positive work environment.

Counting the cost

Counting the cost is only part of the process; it’s not the end. This part of the process isn’t supposed to deter you from moving forward. Instead, it is supposed to keep you informed and help position you for success in the long run. So, embrace it.

Can you? or Can you not?

The fact that nobody has it all figured out is liberating. It means that we can push and stretch ourselves as far as our limits can go.

the first and the 15thTobi NifesiJanuary 15, 2024Writing, Ghostwriting, Trauma, Psychology, Book

The year that stood still

This year has felt like one of the longest of my life, not because time stood still but because I often had to be at ease even when I couldn't afford to.

the first and the 15thTobi NifesiDecember 15, 20232023, Psychology, New Year

hope over fear

The last couple of weeks have been stressful for various reasons. It genuinely felt like I was being mentally yanked from side to side in an underground windowless storage room just wide enough for the edges of my shoulders to meet the walls.

the first and the 15thTobi NifesiJuly 15, 2022Tobi NifesiFear, Psychology, Hope

The Celtics way

They say inspiration can come from anywhere. And indeed, it can. Because today, I’m inspired by the Boston Celtics.

the first and the 15thTobi NifesiMay 15, 2022Tobi NifesiSports, Psychology, Hope

Just really curious... About our attention

It’s incredible how quickly we tend to jump onto the next big news as soon as it’s convenient for us to do so.

the first and the 15thTobi NifesiApril 1, 2022Tobi NifesiPsychology

Maybe, the fault is in our stars?

If the cost of everything is on the rise, supplies of essential goods are running low, and the real solutions to local and global crises are beyond anything that we can, individually or collectively, do, I wonder if our only viable option is to chuck it all up to fate, faith, or something else.

the first and the 15thTobi NifesiMarch 15, 2022Tobi NifesiPsychology

Reality vs You

It’s mid-January, so, it’s that time of the month when many people realize that their new year resolutions weren’t so realistic after all.

the first and the 15thTobi NifesiJanuary 15, 2022Tobi NifesiFaith, Psychology

As seen in context

Cast your mind back to a time when you had all sorts of plans drawn up and, from there, follow the blueprints back to the present.

the first and the 15thTobi NifesiDecember 15, 2021Tobi NifesiPsychology

On Finishing Well

I’m learning to let my moments of excitement linger far longer than the event that got me excited in the first place. I’m doing this to hack myself to always do what it takes to finish well.

Tobi NifesiDecember 1, 2021Tobi NifesiIdeas, Psychology